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Have You Lost Your Child to a Smartphone?

I recently reached out to a number of parents, six to be exact, about my concern for our children and what personal technology is doing to their minds, moods, behavior, relationships and just about everything else. Specifically, I pointed out what I witness: the constant need for distraction, relating to the device rather than the peson they are with; chronic fear of missing out on what might be happening on the device; continual posting of selfies (often in lieu of enjoying the experience they are posting); the need to be entertained by several things at once (nothing being enough); intolerance for boredom; disinterest in their own company; the relentless search for something external to satisfy; anxiety and irritability (addictive symptoms) when deprived of personal technology; an increase in creative passivity (the loss of ability to generate something out of nothing)...and the list goes on.

In my communication with these parents, I suggested that we establish agreed-upon limits on the technology, "time out" periods that would be the same for everyone in their tight group of friends. This way, none of the children would feel they were missing out on something when they were off technology, as everyone else's phones would also be dark. I also recommended that we open a dialogue and create a united front on this issue, as the grown-ups in this life situation, the ones in charge, perhaps to talk about what we can do to help our children develop the skills to be well in a world that is teaching them to be absent from where they are, absent from themselves, and to need perpetual entertainment just to be OK. What I wrote to the parents of my daughter's friends was really a plea to take this issue seriously, to employ our greater wisdom and experience as adults and not allow our children to disappear into the virtual vacuum -- to step in and protect our children's ability to live in the present moment -- the basis of all well-being.

I sent out six please. How many responses did I receive back? Zero.

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