How We Got Back our Parenting Power after Years of Mismanaging Meltdowns
About 10 years ago, when our son was very young, our family life was a daily struggle. He would have long, loud meltdowns, and we didn’t know exactly what was going on. (We later learned about his sensory processing issues and sensory overload.)
Sometimes the meltdowns seemed to be triggered by nothing, like when he’d start screaming in the evenings when he got tired.
These were not temper tantrums, but something else. He wasn’t trying to get his way, because there was no “way” to get. He just seemed to be falling apart. It was heartbreaking, frustrating and exhausting.
What We Were Doing
Back then, our family was in such chaos that we’d often do whatever it took to stop the meltdowns. Sometimes we resorted to “bribery” and other distractions to calm him down. We did things like buy him toy trains if he went a day without a meltdown, hoping that would get him to self-regulate a bit more. And every time we did, we second-guessed our actions.
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